This is an age old word. It can be a boon or bane faced by millions of couples around the globe. Love, a phrase, word, physical action or subtle transmission of inner magnetic force fields, is one of the most common universal spoken mantra daily!
Number of dictionaries defines love as variety of feelings, states, attitudes that range from interpersonal affection. E.g. “I love you mother” to pleasure like, “I love that meal."
It further explains that it can be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion and affection – the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for good of another. Love also can be described as compassionate and warm action towards other humans, one’s self and animals.
Among others, they define love in various forms of acts as a major catalyst of interpersonal relationship due to psychological significance as a function that keeps continuation living species.
How much value one can measure this sacred word nowadays? One would sure scratch one’s head; therefore, I leave it to the readers to answer to this question! Take your shot, please!
The equal gender liberalism view of love expression without strong conviction of feelings does take a toll to millions of couples around the world. I leave out the other non-human species for now!
“I love you," words expressed today become “I hate you” tomorrow.
Conditions are set, expectation that either one follow action that satisfies or pleases, otherwise it’s, “I hate you." These expressions do not necessarily by verbal method, but can be by implied manner.
Conditions are set, expectation that either one follow action that satisfies or pleases, otherwise it’s, “I hate you." These expressions do not necessarily by verbal method, but can be by implied manner.
Action says it in the absence of word expression; worst still the no action too can be a source of “I hate you or I don't like” exhibition of feelings.
Its how one party senses the subtle hidden projection through speeches, inhibitive body language and in extreme cases, displeasure direct rebuttal or raging anger tantrum.
Modern day love is more of physical in nature, devoid of true soul bonding. It is temperamental mercurial love, with largely missing “mutual respect” of each other’s weakness and strength.
Breaking of communication lines for an extended period of time, reclusive and withdrawn to inflict pain by perceived subtle punishments to their partner equally derails lasting relationship.
Hurry to fall in love today, and then fall apart the next day and move to the other person is a common phenomenon.
It happens to youths as well as to adults.
The operational women, a term I used for out of house working ladies, travelling businessman and extremely busy working man breaks apart family live system (arguable) are amongst vulnerable people.
Falling in love and shortly after, falling out of love!
It’s a funny situation, nevertheless mind-boggling to the older generation, even to me, who have not seen so much of free flow of love expression words in earlier days, it’s sheer non-verbal actions that speaks louder that the word itself, showing of inner love that only can be felt by both of them, telepathically creating bonds that binds for life-time; unlike the one akin as the bottle colas in this present day, where it sizzles first and then fizzles out, as quickly as soon the can is opened.
Void of “true love," this kind of mutual attractions never to last.
It inflicts lasting pains and sufferings, both mental and physical nature. It creates out-of-wed pregnancies that need abortion among the youngsters, extramarital affairs, short flings during trips, hook-ups with office mates, etc.
This is why I strongly believe for a lasting love relationship, for partners in particular, a clear formation of mind set on realistic future goals and strict spiritual understandings is prerequisite before committing, otherwise, it will be a waste of energy, time and creates bad karma to be be faced in the future.
Gurudeva, Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami elucidated on this aspect in His Holiness Master Course lesson books with such clarity.
Gurudeva, in spiritual realms from Hindu practices, advices His devotees to be careful and discerning enough when selecting partners because has potential future implication.
Gurudeva, in spiritual realms from Hindu practices, advices His devotees to be careful and discerning enough when selecting partners because has potential future implication.
No hurry, no worry and no sorry, Gurudeva is spot on when admonition His worldwide congregations.
It’s better to marry a person from the same religion, denomination or those who are willing to be part of that tradition or sampradaya) to avoid unnecessary negative karmas.
No forcing is done here! Explain this to your future partner with a clear conscience. Be bold and don’t worry being rejected.
Life partner is meant for a lifetime, a godliness relationship that requires zero inharmonious conditions, albeit of occasional hiccups, settled within 24 hours and not more than 3 days of no communication.
The man of the house must insist on this in loving nature to his is future partner. She has to understand that from the very start both are an equal partner. He is the King and She is the Queen.
Love is a spiritual bond that binds two hearts, a lifelong commitment, no matter in what situation they’re once that a commitment is done.
Therefore, it is the ability to withstand any situation together thence on.
Once signed in their loving hearts, there is no turning back, unless under certain circumstances such as abusive acts, violence and physical torture that endangers life of either partner.
Choose a partner who is matured, may not be perfect in all sense, spiritual, religious, joyful, who is willing to stay till your last days on earth, loyal, trustful, who doesn't see you in a bad light when you're down or bedridden, who accepts your shortcomings as long you're genuine takings steps to improve those deficiencies, be it in attitude or behaviours.
Choose a partner who is matured, may not be perfect in all sense, spiritual, religious, joyful, who is willing to stay till your last days on earth, loyal, trustful, who doesn't see you in a bad light when you're down or bedridden, who accepts your shortcomings as long you're genuine takings steps to improve those deficiencies, be it in attitude or behaviours.
There will no room for fickleness, indecisiveness and erroneousness judgemental mindset. It does not love first and break-off later if not happy or yo-yo feelings due to day to day life pressure or changing circumstances.
Think thousands of times before uttering this word to your potential partner or future spouse, once confirmed, commit it till death do us apart!!
When promises are made it's casts in the inner-worlds, revoking them means demerit karmas to be paid in equal proportion by the doer(s).
Love can behave childishly but it's not child play. Love means responsibility. It concerns heart, not just blind external physical attraction for short term gain. It goes beyond this life-time as bonded souls to attain the highest goal of life, self realization.
When promises are made it's casts in the inner-worlds, revoking them means demerit karmas to be paid in equal proportion by the doer(s).
Love can behave childishly but it's not child play. Love means responsibility. It concerns heart, not just blind external physical attraction for short term gain. It goes beyond this life-time as bonded souls to attain the highest goal of life, self realization.
I have not touched on other aspects of lasting relationship from the viewpoint of Sanadhana Darma.
All can be read on www.gurudeva.org. Learn and practice one's religion with understanding.
Perhaps some other time folks!!
All can be read on www.gurudeva.org. Learn and practice one's religion with understanding.
Perhaps some other time folks!!
Ravichandran Ceyon speaks from his experience and says thanks to his spiritual masters, the Rishis of yore and modern the day jagadacharyas for their lasting love and light who showed the way for his self-transformation.
