My simple thought
Trust and being true
Simple word but contains strong values when we enter into any meaningful relationship. Now, the question begs, “Why trust is so important in any relationship?”
Before answering this question lets us ask another important question, ``Why are we so passionate on trust?”
We know that a bond can be created at any level of communication and acceptance between two or more individuals who regard social interaction as one of the key factors for being in high spirits.
Trust agrees us to have a significance association with others. We have a greater sense of security accepting as true compliance that something is what it appears to be. It means we have the aptitude to be open, confide our heart, and put our life on someone’s hand without a second thought.
We know beyond shadow of a doubt that the person we trust will be there in any circumstances. We place reliance on something in the future. We place high confidence on the person(s) integrity and ability to honor any conformity made in any mode or manner, e.g. spoken words of assurance, promises made and care for another.
How we can be assured trust can be relied and depended upon on whom it was placed? It is an intricate question, sometimes can be very confusing even to the psychologist because trust relies on inconclusive evidence. It is just an assurance feeling one can experience. You have to really put to test the trust with faith, a hunch sensation where your inner conscience may guide you.
Put it this way. Take the trust into our day to day life and scan through the pages of our past experiences where you had confidently placed your trust on someone you so strongly believe would care enough to hold to it no matter what happen to them or to you. You will be surprised to know that the majority, 90% of them almost certain had failed you!
The problem with “people” is, they usually tend to forget what they had said previously to you. Blame it on circumstances or nature of human basic fight or flight behaviour, psychologist tend to excuse them because the brain is naturally wired to protect the individual to flee from any situation seemed not favorable. Simply put, FEAR FACTOR. This is natural animalistic tendency as to why trusts are usually broken.
“ If I can’t handle or accept a new situation which I perceive have given me a clue to decide that trust may longer be necessary to be uphold, the best thing for me to decide is to ignore all promises made previously.” Free will preferences made unilaterally disregarding the negative consequences and impact of that decision to the other person(s) where they had initially placed their trust.
Humanistic values rely heavily on ethics of trust and to be true to words or promises, whether it is implied or explicitly defined in any form of communication or action. Spiritual values too speak highly about this virtue; a must possession to built strong positive character and wisdom as we grow older.
Yes, I do agree, off course trust always begins with self.
20th July, 2014
